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Keep Your Beginner's Mind

Inspired by Marc Benioff episode

Marc Benioff's meditation practice taught him: in the beginner's mind there are many possibilities, in the expert's mind there are few.

Marc Benioff says stay curious like you're new to the job. Don't let expertise make you rigid.

And I'm like, yeah, I get it—because the second you think you've figured out your kid, they level up and you're back to being an idiot.

You spend months mastering the two-year-old. Naps, snacks, the exact tone of voice that prevents a meltdown at Target. You're a genius. Then they turn three and suddenly "because I said so" is a debate topic. They want citations. They want to see your sources.

Every new stage is a hard reset. What worked last month is now useless. You're standing there with all this expertise about a person who no longer exists.

The beginner's mind isn't optional. It's forced on you every six months whether you like it or not.

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