Selectivity Is Your Strategy
Inspired by Wes Kao episode
Wes Kao on saying no strategically. You can't go to every playdate and build every feature.
Wes Kao teaches that saying no is a superpower. If you say yes to everything, you're saying nothing is important. You need a framework for what gets a yes.
Here's what nobody tells you: the parents who look like they have it together aren't better at managing time, they're better at saying no. They don't debate whether to skip the birthday party on Saturday. They have a rule: one weekend activity, period. You show up exhausted to every event, they show up rested to the ones that matter.
Same with PMs. The ones who ship great products aren't heroically building every feature. They have a framework. "Does this serve our core use case?" No? Then no. Every feature you build is three others you don't. Every playdate you attend is family dinner you skip.
The guilt is the same too. You're disappointing someone either way. But trying to please everyone guarantees you'll disappoint everyone, including yourself. The hard part isn't saying no once. It's developing the framework so you can say no consistently. Selectivity isn't selfish. It's the only path to sanity.
