Shreyas Doshi
The One-Way Door Trap
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Shreyas Doshi warns that 'two-way door' decisions become one-way through organizational momentum. That 'just try gymnastics' semester becomes permanent because your kid made a friend and there's a recital now.
Shreyas Doshi talks about how decisions that look reversible become permanent through organizational momentum. You think you can back out. You cannot back out.
Your kid wants gymnastics. "Just try it," you say. "One semester." Except they make a friend. The friend invites them to a birthday party at the gym. Now there's a recital and you've already bought the leotard, which was forty-seven dollars, so you're in. The Tuesday slot is blocking piano, which you actually wanted them to try, but gymnastics has momentum now.
That iPad "just for car rides" is now required for dinner. The sleepover you agreed to "just this once" created precedent that will be cited until college. Every yes is a one-way door disguised as a two-way door, and your kid has a better memory than corporate legal.
You think you're being flexible. You're building obligations. The universe doesn't care that you said "we'll see how it goes."
