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Give Away Your Legos to Grow

Inspired by Molly Graham episode

Molly Graham's framework: grow as fast as your company - learn to give away what you've mastered and move on. True for parenting stages.

Molly Graham calls it giving away your Legos. You build something, get really good at it, and then someone says "cool, now give that to someone else and go build the next thing." In product, you master growth hacks, then you're supposed to hand them off and go figure out enterprise sales or whatever fresh hell awaits.

With kids, it's watching them put on their shoes. You could do it in eight seconds. They will take four minutes and put both shoes on the wrong feet. But if you keep doing it for them, they stay incompetent and you stay trapped in a house where a seven-year-old can't dress themselves.

The Legos metaphor works because you're not giving away the boring part—you're giving away the part you're actually good at. The thing that made you feel competent. And in exchange, you get to feel like an idiot again while they destroy what you built and you fumble around with dog parks or whatever.

That's scale. Congrats.

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While this advice is inspired by Molly Graham's quotes, it does not necessarily mean they would agree with it. Much like your kids or mother-in-law. If you see something odd though, you can .