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The Scope Is Never Just Piano

Inspired by Mihika Kapoor episode

Mihika Kapoor tells stuck PMs: your scope isn't your current project—it's the world. Find what you're passionate about, then figure out where it fits. Same applies to kids and piano lessons.

Kid says they hate piano. Amateur question: "Should we quit?" Mihika would tell you that's the wrong scope. You're not optimizing for piano. You're optimizing for: what makes this kid light up?

Maybe it's music but different—drums, GarageBand, singing in the car. Maybe it's not music. Maybe it's performance (theater), mastery (rock climbing), or the social hour before class where everyone eats goldfish crackers.

You're treating piano like the scope. Piano is one possible solution. The scope is finding what they're passionate about, then figuring out where it lives. Inside piano with a different teacher? Outside piano entirely?

Mihika founded a national design conference because what she wanted didn't exist yet. Kids do this naturally—six months obsessed with space, then dinosaurs, then submarines. That's not distraction. That's them defining their scope.

Stop shrinking the world to fit the current activity.

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While this advice is inspired by Mihika Kapoor's quotes, it does not necessarily mean they would agree with it. Much like your kids or mother-in-law. If you see something odd though, you can .