Lane Shackleton
Tools Should Adapt to Users, Not the Other Way Around
Inspired by Lane Shackleton episode
Lane Shackleton's Coda philosophy: mold to workflows, don't force change. Same with kids and developmental readiness.
You bought the ergonomic toddler fork set. Occupational therapist-approved. Your kid picks up a chicken nugget with their hands and just... looks at you.
Lane Shackleton built Coda on this: tools should adapt to users, not the other way around. Turns out this also describes every meal at your house.
Some two-year-olds sit perfectly still for story time. Yours needs to do backflips off the couch while you read. Some three-year-olds share like tiny diplomats. Yours needs another year, maybe two, possibly twelve.
The parenting books have a timeline. Your kid did not receive the memo. You can fight their actual development stage, or you can meet them where they are. One of these approaches works. The other is just you, alone in the kitchen, polishing unused forks while your kid eats pasta with their hands like a tiny raccoon.
The tool adapts, or the tool sits in a drawer. Choose wisely.
